They didn’t teach me in graduate school. They didn’t teach me during my internship. They didn’t even teach me during my first couple of years on the job. They didn’t teach me how to tell parents that their child had a significant disability. And I didn’t realize this gaping hole in my education existed until I was staring at the results of an IQ test and had no idea how I was going to say what I needed to say.

The IEP didn’t go well. It was an emotional and hostile meeting… and it was all my fault. I knew that I had to do better.

This blog is about that quest to do better by understanding the feelings of grief of parents of children with disabilities and how the actions and words of educators, as well as the IEP process, can affect those feelings. I hope that we can learn together.