I belong to a few groups on Facebook for parents of students with special needs and those who work with or advocate for them.  I joined a new one a few days ago and after reading through the posts, I felt depressed.  Surely, we can do better.  There was so much pain, frustration, and mistrust in their posts. I know that there are two sides to every story, but some things are just hard to justify. I felt compelled to send out an apology to parents.

I am sorry that the IEP process is so confusing, sterile and inhumane.

I am sorry that no told you about X or Y or Z.

I am sorry that it has taken so long to get help for your child. 

I am sorry if you still haven’t gotten help for your child.

I am sorry that your concerns were not heard or are still not being heard. 

PLEASE DON’T GIVE UP!

I know that you are so worried about your child that you lose sleep because of anxiety and may feel a little frazzled at times. 

I know that you are doing your best even if sometimes you feel a little crazy and maybe act a little crazy because it really shouldn’t be this hard to get help.

I know that you love your child…and want others to love your child too.

I know that your child is grateful for your advocacy.

YOU ARE AMAZING!