I am not going to try to hide it in some creative story.

I am just going to say it.

Here it is – four pieces of unsolicited advice for parents of special needs children.

Stay away from anyone who makes you feel like you are not measuring up in some way. Only you know your heart, your capacity, your struggles, and your victories. You are the authority on your life.

Let go of unrealistic expectations for your child. Margarita Tartakovsky explained, “Unrealistic expectations are unhelpful expectations. Even though it’s hard, work on relinquishing them. And remember that you can create new rules and beliefs that inspire, support and serve both you and your relationships.”

Lower expectations of what you can accomplish in a day.  If allowing your child some screen time gives time to regroup, do it.   If your emotions are raw, don’t beat yourself up about it.  It’s a sign that you need a break.  Be open with family and friends about your difficulties.

Be kind to yourself. “Self-compassion encourages mindfulness, or noticing your feelings without judgment; self-kindness, or talking to yourself in a soothing way; and common humanity,” explained Rachel Simmons.  Talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend.

Okay, done. Go continue being awesome.